Showing posts with label Babble. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Babble. Show all posts

Thursday, May 7, 2009

60 second Infomercials..

Apparently my family is total suckers for the 60 second Infomerical.
Kaila hears one for this..


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Mom we NEED that so we can make sure we use ALL the toothpaste!

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I BRING HOME this...sucker

SMOOTH AWAY


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Kaila says "oh mom I seen that on tv yesterday why did you "buyed" it, You don't want no more hair?"

I start making a gift bag for my mother for Mother's Day.

Kaila says "I hope you are not giving away this" as she holds the hair removal contraption.

The sad part of the story is that I really did buy it for myself because I am a sucker intrigued.


Sunday, April 19, 2009

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Special Families Easter Egg Hunt and More!

Amid the chaos that was Thurs and Friday.. on Saturday it was an absolutely awesome day. Just what we all needed.

First...

We had our local monthly meeting for the Snohomish County Mother's Network, every first Saturday of the month and I wait for that day as if I was pregnant and it was my due date. A support group made up of mothers of special needs children, all abilities, all challenges, all diagnoses, all ages. This group I have been a part of since its conception 4 years ago. I have been to other support groups but none are like this one.

This one is very intimate, very private. We cry some, but we laugh more. At alot of support groups all you hear is crying, it's great to get it all out but you can only take so much sorrow, this is one thing that I feel makes me keep coming back to the Mother's Network because we do have fun, we do laugh, we do craft nights and mom's nights out, we also see each other at family and kid activities its more then just a monthly support group. In fact we are playing Bunko Friday night! We talk about our kids with special needs, we talk about our husbands, we talk about work, we talk about anything and that is unique. It is actually being fully supported, in the ups and the downs of life as it relates to our child with special needs and as it doesn't too!

While a majority of the group is children with Autism since well let's face it, it is very common. But we have other diagnoses and welcome any mother of any special needs child we even have a few that their "child" is over 18.. they can be 30 and you are still very much welcome in our group which is also a rarity in a support group! What we say stays there, no one judges us, we share things that we share with no one else but that group. We all get out what we need to, making everyone cry but at the same time we also have great senses of humor and get jokes that no one else but our group would think was funny and we laugh too. I cried, I laughed, I cried, and I laughed some more. Therapy at it's best.

Childcare is provided which makes it accessible to most mothers if they chose to seek out support. This is the main reason I wrote that letter to the "big dogs" a few days ago.. because this program and many others that are through the ARC are at a huge risk for budget cuts. Senate, House and Governor have all planned to take away the funding for a wide range of all the activities I speak of under their budget plans this year. It isn't final however until it is voted on and agreed on.. hence the reason for the letter I wrote.


THEN..

me and 3 of my other rock star moms took our 7 kids to Burger King (we were missing 1 kid too) to let them play in the play area and get a quick bite to eat.

THEN...

A local storage facility owner/manager not quite sure which.. (heard through the grapevine) has a grandson with special needs and decided to put on an egg hunt specifically for those with special needs only and their family members.

Intriguing..

You mean my daughter won't get one egg when another larger, faster.. not distracted by Easter "grass" kid gets 20 eggs? People won't look at me like why on earth is that adult helping a 7 year old get eggs? She's cheating! Adults can't help! Or if by any sort of luck it is agreed upon that she should in fact be in a younger age bracket because of her ABILITIES.. that another parent won't say why is that big kid in with the little kids.. she's cheating! sigh.

Say What?? Who's smart idea was this?

Oh yeah it was theirs. right.. got that? K good.. because you might want to send a proposal to your local storage facilities for next year.

So they had near the entrance 3 large storage "garages" open. One had an Easter bunny for a photo. They snapped the pic (as did most everyone with their own cameras.. which you cannot do at the Mall Bunny!) Then they very smartly got your address and email address so they could send you the picture.. hey you marketing reps .. if you are proposing this to a storage facility next year.. and they are not biting.. point out this is a great benefit! Getting addresses for mailing lists etc.

The next garage had regular white plastic bags and stickers! Decorate your bag with stickers anyway u want and then you get to proceed inside to find eggs!

Inside we go with a "helper".. and a list.

The list had numbers on it.. of storage units, big ones, small ones, tiny ones, medium ones. You found the storage units on the list and opened them and there was a basket of eggs in the back, each kid went in got one egg and came back out.. onto the next unit. 15 units later every kid has 15 eggs!

It was fair for everyone, but still a fun "hunt" finding which units, and the kids of course all wanted to be the one to open them up and lead the way in!

Alana did great, she went in every unit grabbed one egg. Brought it to me, then proceeded to go back in the unit.. but not for another egg. Just because she wanted to go in again lol. Not once did she try to grab more then one egg. She listened VERY well.

We did crack a joke that if our kids go to any storage facilities in the future they are going to be opening units looking for eggs.. ha ha

Donni didn't really participate because he has huge stranger anxiety lately and if you put him down he screams and doesn't move. Even at the park he stays in his stroller mostly or the swing or else he is NOT HAPPY. But Kaila got him an egg at each unit for him to enjoy at home.

It was/is a great idea and rumor has it, it will be an annual event. YEAH! Now onto picture overload...

The sun was in her eyes but it's still a cute pic!





My favorite pic of the day! She loves any full costumed thing.. as long as there is no face.. like Santa Claus.




Making her bag




Oh a pink egg! Left to right Alex, Kaila, Alana and Timmy


yellow!

Oh a tiny unit! Left to right: Jackson, Alex, Timmy, Alana and Kaila







orange!









In this picture is Hazel, her dad and Kaila.


In this picture is Rebecca and Caitlyn, Hazel & dad and Alana.






















On the way out she had to say hi to the bunny again!
THEN...
I went to work.. how anti climatic right.




Thursday, April 2, 2009

World Autism Awareness Day ~ disAbility=ABILITY Deep Thoughts for me.




What does that mean to most? Nothing.

What does it mean to me? The world.

I don't have much to say about autism because tonight has been rather eventful...

Alana had an anxiety attack / meltdown

I am having bad anxiety all day but I have no insurance to get back on my anxiety meds I was on before I had Donni.

Someone came to our home during Alana's meltdown. I said I just got home from the grocery store (car was still on, groceries in the car, pouring rain, door open) and was dealing with a major meltdown.. he stayed outside until I told him I couldn't talk right now so I doubt he was a salesperson etc (plus he only came to our house) because our door was open and it was obvious it was beyond chaotic at that moment, any normal person doing something un important would have bolted and he remained on the walkway. He wasnt a "church person" because he was alone and only came to my house, wasn't yeilding a bible or the watchtower. So my anxiety arose that what could this person possibly want? He had a paper in his hand. Did someone call CPS on me, because if I heard some of Alana's screaming especially in the middle of the night sometimes I would be worried as a neighbor. But the autism bumper stickers and the special needs bus that comes to my door should be enough to let everyone know that if things are not normal there is a reason. Did someone see her eating ice/snow or dirt in the yard? because well with autism that can be an all to regular occurance. I could barely hear the guy but it sounded like he said I am looking for the priest family? which im sure he didn't say that.. but with all the screaming who knows I just told him to come back later because I couldn't even hear him speak. Was he someone serving me legal papers? Was he from a government agency like SSI? I highly doubt that but ya know.. He didn't come back tonight so maybe I scared him off, maybe he will be back tomorrow but if he is he better be back before 5:15 like today because I leave at 4:30 for work.


Now I am sick or having a panic attack , hot flashes, diarrhea (TMI), body freezing / shivering, head on fire.

Daddy woke Alana up to change her diaper because she fell asleep pretty early (meltdown wore her out and she didnt nap during her nap/relax time so she fell asleep right after dinner, was awake this morning at who knows what time I woke at 8 and she was awake in her bed) and he hadnt changed it before she fell asleep because she was dry but the flood gates opened when she fell asleep as usual. And he seen a huge mark on her leg and called for me to come to the room and asked what it was. I said I didnt know, but it looked like a huge dotted, lacy bruise hickey looking mark.. Not a bruise bruise but like a compression mark if that makes any sense. Then he rotated her to put her diaper on and her other leg had a mark in the same spot! I immediately thought well if that guy was CPS this surely isn't going to be a plus..then quickly realized that isn't the point.. needed to figure out what happened to her. I emailed her teacher to see if she fell (doubtful doesnt look like a fall mark unless she fell on one side then fell on the opposite side... yeah I don't think so) or if she might have been buckled/restrained in a seat or something and it was too tight across her legs?.. she actually was checking her email and said Alana was in the net swing several times today and maybe that caused it (the net swing clings to your body but like all swings it has an edge on it that might have dug into her legs?). That sounded better then my thought of maybe her nap/relax time in bed she got caught in between the rails, causing the meltdown or tight seatbelt on bus?.. but her meltdown wasn't an owie meltdown she will normally tell you if she is hurt because she likes me to kiss it. This just wasn't a hurt cry it was a pissed off for some damn reason scream. Plus with the dotty/lacy appearance the net swing seems to fit better, and the fact that her and daddy both mark easily. Daddy has frequently come home with a straight bruise looking mark from one shoulder to the other from lifting weights and letting the weightbar relax gently on his shoulders. And the mark stays for at least a day but is never ever painful, just a skin reaction.

So let's hope hers goes away in a day? and is not painful..

Mother of the year for me..

At least I had a chance before all the anxiety to print out a bunch of dot to dot sheets, cut and paste sheets, shape puzzles I am going to make into folders (got some more folder making supplies!), tracing object sheets, teacher sent home some cut and paste stuff, cutting practice sheets with bold border to cut, sticker dot letter sheets and picture sheets. Will share more on the worksheet type tasks for her desk at a later date.


What did you learn if you read all this?

Autism Lesson # 1:
We have to guess what is wrong with our kids because normally they cannot tell us where a bruise came from. Most people take for granted that their 7 yr old can simply say mom I fell at school and got an owie.

Autism Lesson #2:
It's a reality that you may get CPS called on you because of your child's behaviors, screaming, pica (eating non food items). Some of this can look like abuse or neglect from outsiders.

Autism Lesson #3:
Anxiety ranks high in priority in a house with Autism.. mine anyway.. lately.

Autism Lesson #4:
Even kids with Autism can want their owies kissed.. a very very typical thing. Praise god for those few oh so typical things that make it all better in the grand scheme of things.

Autism Lesson #5:
Be aware because its World Autism Awarness Day, okay the days almost over be aware whenever you read this post! That World Autism Awarness Day is April 2nd, and the entire month of April is Autism Awareness Month.

Autism Lesson #6:
I wouldn't trade it for the world, suspicous markings, dirt eating, wall licking, jumpin, spinning, swinging, screaming, anxiety, isolation.. Its a part of me now and will forever be and it has changed me for the better and for that I am eternally greatful.

Autism Lesson #7:
You won't get this from reading this post but if you read this at all or know me the least bit you will know I stand up for disAbility rights. If I have to write a letter to the "big dogs" by all means I will. If I have to chastize a co-worker for making fun of special needs with a special olympics crack similar to Barack Obama's, then by all means I will. Even if it risks being ousted at work.. even if he makes an ass of himself then later apologizes to me. If I have to explain for the millionth time that my child has autism and is not simply a brat, I will so I can educate those who are not as lucky as me to be gifted with the most loving child on earth. If I have to make a status post on facebook for friends to stop taking an offensive quiz then I will, because if they are friends they would apologize and think twice next time which is the whole point of disAbility rights is so we can change the way people think and act towards people with disAbilities. It's worth me standing up for, I am not talking just Autism, I am talking about all kids with special needs. It is worth everyones time. Please think about this next time you see someone in a wheelchair, having a major meltdown in the store, licking the shopping cart, flapping their arms, screaming, blowing raspberries, doing anything out of the ordinary that they are human, they are not animals and we should not treat them as such. They have thoughts, they have dreams, they notice when people are staring, you CAN talk to them.. you won't get their disease trust me. Just treat them like any other human being.. They might ignore you.. they might not even acknowledge your presence but I will say there's no way you can tell me they can't hear you.. even if they are hard of hearing.. they hear your compassion, they hear your thoughts.. They also hear those who walk by with stares and glares and comments and general disregard. Which do you want to be? the compassion or the stares?

disAbility = ABILITY

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Yummy Tummy Thursday! ~ Dessert Edition + Babbling..

I know this is a little late today. Been busy, it's 11:30pm and I just got home from work, at least I made 100$ in tips right?? Worked my ass off for it though. I also spilled almost an entire glass of Merlot on my new white shirt, under shirt and even spots on my bra...so I guess I should say 80$ because at least 20$ went in the trash Damn, damn stupid, stupid wine I normally do not work on Thursday's but well.. I have Sunday off for the birthday party of course so I picked up tonight...

Btw the party as parties always do, is giving me just a tiny anxiety.. sigh. We will have a blast but the planning and worrying that goes along with it, what did I forget? What else do I need? Is it going to rain? will my family behave themselves around my good friends? Gotta make sure its all clean and set up right.. its not really dirty by far but I seem to think it is in my worrying brain lol. I think I need some drugs again now that Donni is no longer breastfeeding WAHHHHHH :-(. I apologize now for anyone that will be here for my extended family and their bad mouths, gossiping, R word usage and just all around dysfunction. I am not completely innocent, I do not say the R word.. regrettably I grew up doing so but have long ago retrained myself no to.. and my close family members (mom, sister, etc.) get slapped when they say it around me... but I do have quite the sailor language so I apologize in advanced if something slips. Okay onto Dessert.





Cookie Sundaes

From Real Mom Kitchen! Thanks Laura!

Please go visit the link for the ingredients and directions, shes got many other recipes on there too, new one everyday! I used mini cake pans that my mom gave me while ago.. yeah finally used them.. ha! I'm sure you could just as well use cupcake/muffin pan. Save room for these because they are a hearty dessert in my opinion! I do want to warn to not overcook these I overcooked mine a bit the first 3 we ate right away were perfect but the other 3 were stale/hard the next morning, tried to heat them a little in the microwave but I learned fast that only burnt it and tasted funny. :-P.












Tuesday, March 17, 2009

All about Alana...Turner Syndrome & Autism as it relates to us.

So I typed this up today for the mothers group I am part of locally that is mothers of children with special needs. It is basically so everyone new and old knows what your child and what your background with "special needs" is about. They might learn something new, have things in common, etc. Its kind of an intro to why we are in a special needs parents group to begin with. I have wanted to write this as a post here for awhile and keep it as a permanent link by her photo and autism and TS links on my sidebar.. this just pushed me to do it finally! I will follow up a different day with some photos of her in her harness, etc.

I am Crystal mom to 3, Alana is 7 this weekend!, Kaila is 5 and Donni is 1. I was 18when I had Alana. She was diagnosed in utero with Turner Syndrome via an amnio because she had a cystic hygroma and heart and kidney abnormalities on ultrasound. We were seen at the University Of Washington High Risk OB once the diagnoses was made, had NST tests 3 times a week after 32weeks, ultrasounds once a week, echocardiograms every other week. I had preeclampsia and was induced at 36 weeks.. for 4 days. The placenta actually broke in pieces as it was being removed, it had to be manually taken out.. this showing that is was very fragile and probably is what caused the preeclampsia in the first place and very scary because the placenta is the lifeline for your baby.

She had a nuchal cord at birth, 2 very large "bubble" hematomas on her head that took 6 months to fully go away.. Those made them do a head ultrasound which showed a very minor grade 1 0r 2 bleed under the skull but nothing to "worry" about. She had torticollis as a baby because of the weight of her head and neck muscle issues. She had loose skin on her neck at birth from the hygroma which later forms "neck webbing". U/S and blood testing on her kidneys after birth verified the prenatal ultrasounds that her right kidney was non functioning and covered in cysts, luckily her left kidney is "normal". Because of the high levels of minerals and creatinine in her blood from the shock of birth on her good kidney she was put on a special prescription formula for kidney patients for the first few weeks until her kidney could adjust, which luckily it gradually improved and she went on regular formula. She would not/ could not breastfeed because she couldnt latch due to her high palate (part of turner syndrome) I pumped for 2 weeks and gave up after having a severe bleeding breast infection and excruciating paid. She had kidney reflux and was on antibiotics for the first year.. (you will soon learn that she has had just about every case situation that is speculated to cause autism.. antibiotics included). Now she is monitored yearly for her kidneys and may need the bad kidney removed in the future as it is not shrinking like it should.

Echocardiograms (heart u/s) at birth showed that her heart condition wasnt near as severe as they had thought prenatally.. yeah good news!. She only had a bicuspid aortic valve and subaortic membrand.. nothing serious at this point.. subsequent echo at 4months showed littlle change with a very mild coarcation of the aorta, again fine just recheck at 1 yr. She got really sick at 6months old and we were in the hospital for 3 days, tested for everything.. including a spinal tap, blood cultures, stool and urine cultures. Everything came back fine.. she had a bacterial infection as evidenced by the petechiae spots she had but it was never found, went away with IV antibiotics.. during this hospital visit they also checked her heart to make sure there was no infection there.. they soon realized that her coarctation had gone from very mild to moderate, requiring surgery. Now we knew why she never drank more then an ounce of formula! She would immediately fall asleep because it was too much work on her heart to eat, she used the 2 1/2 ounce size preemie bottles until she was 12months old.

The typical surgery to repair coarctation of the aorta is not open heart but actually goes kind of behind and under the armpit near the back, there is no heart lunch machine used, the heart is not stopped etc. But they do clamp the main artery (the aorta) to repair it. This restricts blood flow to the lower half of the body temporarily.. including the kidneys. They did not want to risk damage to her only good kidney so they decided on doing a less invasive balloon angioplasty through the groin.. If its less invasive you ask why don't they do this for every patient?? because it doesnt work as well and has a risk of the coarctation returning. But it was the option that best fit her individual situation. This was done at 9months old. She now has yearly checks at the heart doctor including echocardiograms so monitor the other heart anomalies I listed above as well as look for any new or recurring problems. Her aortic root is a little dilated but is simply being monitored. She may need open heart surgery on her aortic valve in the far future (we hope) but for now all is well and stable.

She also was born with congenital bilateral hip dysplasia, basically meaning your hips are not in the socket. It is actually pretty common among girls, even more so girls with turner syndrome and even more so for babys that are breech. She was put in a pavlik harness for 2 1/2 months.. so not fun but I am thankful that it corrected with only the harness because many need to do surgery and more restrictive braces and body casts to correct it. Because of the odd way it made her legs be she slept most of the first few months in her infant carseat, as a bonus this also helped her reflux. More good news! It was checked every year after and now we only go every 3 years until she stops growing.

She also had pretty bad jaundice and was put on a bili bed at home for 4 days, with a home nurse coming to check her bilirubin every morning. At age 18months she was put on growth hormone which is a treatment for the height issues with turner syndrome. It is a shot everynight.. we did this for 2 years but we decided that she wasnt growing well enough on it to be worth it because she surely didnt tolerate it, and to us it wasnt important and mostly cosmetic, plus we are short ourselves and don't see it as a hinderance for her. Most continue this treatment until age 15 or so. Most girls with TS start hormones at puberty age to stimulate periods as most do not on their own and secondary characteristics. TS girls are typically infertile. We will not being doing full hormones levels if any because she/we will feel greatly lucky if we do not have to endure periods with a child with autism.

Alana was started in early intervention at age 2months, mostly for physical issues because of her hips and not being able to move her legs much for 2 1/2 months. Also for feeding issues with her not being able to suck vigorously and leaking formula out of the side of her mouth etc. She began feeding therapy which soon turned into speech therapy. We went to North Carolina to meet other girls with Turner Syndrome that we chat with online when Alana was 16months, and all the girls were very talkative and outgoing.. some even too outgoing. Alana took her first few steps on this trip too! Not long after we returned home I started realizing that maybe there was more to "the ways of alana" then just TS? She was deathly afraid of the vacuum, she loved to be tickled and squeezed, she screamed bloody murder when you touched her hair, she was also afraid of the lawn mower and the blender. She liked things to be repeated over and over again. She liked to feel and fidget with weird items.. So I came upon sensory integration disorder and was certain she had it, I spoke to other moms online about it and mentioned it to her therapists. They agreed she definitely had some sensory issues and advised we start a "sensory diet".

Autism was mentioned a few times by parents online but never by her therapists as they had known her since birth and she was always a social baby, she could tell you stories with her eyes even if she couldn't talk and they looked right at you, she loved being held, she loved going anywhere and everywhere. She had always been a little delayed in her milestones which could be attributed to Turners and more so her medical conditions and bilingual home, there was never a regression there but the social part of her personality as a baby soon changed and this is what I think really made me look into autism more seriously as she quit looking you in the eye, she quit responding to her name, she quit wanting to be held, she quit having meaningful interactions, when her sister was born she totally ignored her as if she wasn't even there, no worries about jealousy in our house.

As she got a little bit older I realized her speech was not improving and her mannerisms/stims were actually more severe. And I knew delayed speech and some of the things she was doing were not "just turner syndrome" like most people just assumed they were at first. Thats the difficulty with a dual diagnoses, she was diagnosed later then she could have been because her therapists unfamiliar with Turner Syndrome assumed everything that she was doing was part of it and not something else. Soon it was obvious to me she had autism after reading up about it.. and we finally got the diagnoses at almost 3 years old. It didn't shock me because she really has a textbook case and I was sure of it before we even went in. And I think in a way I didnt grieve like most do when they hear their child has autism because I had in a way already grieved when we were given the Turner Syndrome diagnoses. There wasn't anymore grief left in me I suppose.

At 3 she was placed into the TEACCH program and it is a wonderful program for her, she missed a year of it because of housing issues, but now shes back where she does well. She gets speech and OT at school, speech at providence and she has done hippotherapy at equifriends off and on since she was 2 1/2. She hasnt been now for almost 2 years, but we hope to go again soon as finances permit. She is not potty trained, right not that really is a largest issue along with safety (running away, bolting, in the street etc). She is verbal to request or protest. I want cookie please.. etc., down, no etc. stuff like that. She loves to sing and can repeat a song after only hearing it once. She loves the music/instrument room at the seattle science center! She is a little parrot these days but she will use the phrases at an appropriate time too where it relates to the situation. She will not ask you a question nor answer converstational requests, like what did you do today? etc. she will however answer questions as it relates to her needs such as do you want and apple or banana? or do you want to go outside? etc. typically her answer is repeating the word outside, or choosing and saying banana.. she does not usually say "yes" but we are working on it and she will with prompts. She is very smart, you just have to find unique ways to get the information out of her!

She has sleep issues like most kids with autism. She didnt used to cover her ears with certain noises, but she started doing that a little over a year ago. We tried the diet for awhile but seen no improvement and it was very stressful for our family and we discontinued it. For now our treatment is a good school program, doing therapy at home and trying to live life as normal as possible and expose her to the outside world as much as possible. There is much more to her but I have wrote enough for now! Oh and Kaila and Donni are "typical" as far as we know.


Happy Saint Patty's Day!







Now go find this... but only if you share with me.





And drink plenty of this..



But not too much.. or this might happen to you.


Be Safe...


And remember that...



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